I’ve been reminiscing (if it can even be called that because I haven’t even been engaged that long) about how my wonderful fiancé proposed to me that I decided to put it out there to the world. There wasn’t an airplane that flew by asking, it wasn’t written in the sand, and it definitely wasn’t in a hot air balloon (Chad’s afraid of heights), but it was absolutely perfect for us.
I think I explained in an earlier post a little bit of it so some of this may be redundant, but I want to tell the full story from beginning to end.
My family has never allowed anyone to bring their significant other to our beach trips unless you’re engaged. Weird, I know. I have a VERY traditional family. So after almost 5 1/2 years with my boyfriend at the time I hadn’t even brought up the idea of him coming, but this year I said enough is enough. We’ve been together forever. He’s basically part of the family anyway. So I asked each member of my family who was going on the trip if he could come given the rules- and to my surprise they all said yes!
So fast forward to our first full day at the beach – yes he proposed with being there less than 24 hours. We had just gotten up from a full day at the beach and pool and finished lunch. I told him that I was getting in the shower and I’d be out when I was done. While I was in the shower he went out on the porch and talked to my mom and asked her for my hand in marriage (cue the tears!!) My father isn’t in the picture and never has been so I loved that he asked my mom. We were staying in the house filled with more than 10 people and oddly enough that was the one and only time my mom was ever alone and away from the crowd. It was meant to be. I got out of the shower and everything seemed normal. I really couldn’t tell anything was different. He asked if I wanted us to go out just the two of us that night since my family didn’t have plans, which of course I wanted to. We were staying in a full house and I was already wanting to just be alone with my boyfriend. He told me to get ready and we would go. My cousins came in and did my hair and make up. I got dressed and we were on our way to dinner.
At dinner though, he barely talked. Like at all. I felt like I was pulling teeth trying to get him to talk to me which never happens. Normally we have amazing conversations and I laugh so hard I have tears. All of the sudden out of the blue he looks around frantically and says a string of questions like: “is it raining?” “Is that rain?” “Oh god it’s raining, can you see that?” “We need to go soon. It’s about to rain” “oh my god rain”. I was beginning to get irritated because 1) he wasn’t even talking to me and the one time he did it was about the weather and 2) we were INSIDE eating. What the heck does the weather matter? We got the check fairly soon after and once we got into the car he asked if I wanted to go walk on the beach. I said that I’d love to and he said that he thought we should go walk on the beach back home 30 minutes away. My grandma had asked that we go grocery shopping after dinner and the grocery store was right next to where we were. I couldn’t understand why the heck he wanted to drive 30 minutes to go walk on the beach just to drive all the way back to the grocery store. Plus we were literally on the beach eating dinner. I was so aggravating and complaining the whole time about how it didn’t make sense what we were doing.
We needed up driving ALL THE WAY back to the beach house to walk on the beach and he wants to walk in the fluffy part of the sand. Which mind you is difficult enough to walk in regularly, but I had a dress on and it was extremely windy. So windy I was getting pelted with sand grains. I must’ve asked a million times to go closer to the water to walk so it was easier and I wouldn’t be out of breath trying to walk through the sand storm but he was adamant that we couldn’t do that.
He looks at me and tells me how much he loves me and how much I mean to him and how I’ve helped him grow into the man that he’s become these past 5 1/2 years. He was making a joke about how we had almost been together 2000 days and he can’t believe I put up with him that long and I laughed and said me either and especially with you putting up with me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend all those years ago we had just got done taking a walk and he said “Bailey, I have a secret”. I laughed and said “oh yeah? What’s that? You’re really a serial killer?” He nudged me and said “I would love to date you”. Fast forward to the moment on the beach and he looked at me and said the very same words “Hey Bailey, I have a secret”. I looked at him as he said “I would love to marry you”. My reaction wasn’t what I pictured it would be. I watched him dig around in his pocket and pull out a container that the $.25 rings come in and laughed and said “Is this a joke?! Are you joking?!” He got down on one knee and said my full name and “Will you marry me?”
I said yes of course! And kissed my future husband. He had tears in his eyes and was shaking and tried just handing me the ring, but I stuck out my hand and told him he had to put it on, which he did. I couldn’t stop ugly crying and kissing him telling him how much I loved him. For the whole time we dated, he made a joke that I he was going to propose to me with a $.25 ring that you get from the grocery stores and better hope that I have good luck. He of course put the ring he really got me in the container, but I loved it. Every little part of the proposal. And I felt terrible for being such a monster to him about driving all the way home to walk on the beach.
I’m crying in his arms and he tells me to turn around- I see my momma and my two cousins (who helped me get ready for the night) taking pictures of us! They even took a video of the whole proposal unfold so that I can rewatch it and relive the moment forever. Of course I apologized a million times over for how upset I was to Chad and he just laughs and says it made his nerves settle. (I really don’t know how!)
Here’s a picture of us right after and my absolutely stunning ring. I know it’s not all about the ring, but hey – I’m happy to show it off! Haha