How He Proposed

I’ve been reminiscing (if it can even be called that because I haven’t even been engaged that long) about how my wonderful fiancé proposed to me that I decided to put it out there to the world. There wasn’t an airplane that flew by asking, it wasn’t written in the sand, and it definitely wasn’t in a hot air balloon (Chad’s afraid of heights), but it was absolutely perfect for us.

I think I explained in an earlier post a little bit of it so some of this may be redundant, but I want to tell the full story from beginning to end.

My family has never allowed anyone to bring their significant other to our beach trips unless you’re engaged. Weird,  I know. I have a VERY traditional family. So after almost 5 1/2 years with my boyfriend at the time I hadn’t even brought up the idea of him coming, but this year I said enough is enough. We’ve been together forever. He’s basically part of the family anyway. So I asked each member of my family who was going on the trip if he could come given the rules- and to my surprise they all said yes!

So fast forward to our first full day at the beach – yes he proposed with being there less than 24 hours. We had just gotten up from a full day at the beach and pool and finished lunch. I told him that I was getting in the shower and I’d be out when I was done. While I was in the shower he went out on the porch and talked to my mom and asked her for my hand in marriage (cue the tears!!) My father isn’t in the picture and never has been so I loved that he asked my mom. We were staying in the house filled with more than 10 people and oddly enough that was the one and only time my mom was ever alone and away from the crowd. It was meant to be. I got out of the shower and everything seemed normal. I really couldn’t tell anything was different. He asked if I wanted us to go out just the two of us that night since my family didn’t have plans, which of course I wanted to. We were staying in a full house and I was already wanting to just be alone with my boyfriend. He told me to get ready and we would go. My cousins came in and did my hair and make up. I got dressed and we were on our way to dinner.

At dinner though, he barely talked. Like at all. I felt like I was pulling teeth trying to get him to talk to me which never happens. Normally we have amazing conversations and I laugh so hard I have tears. All of the sudden out of the blue he looks around frantically and says a string of questions like: “is it raining?” “Is that rain?” “Oh god it’s raining, can you see that?” “We need to go soon. It’s about to rain” “oh my god rain”. I was beginning to get irritated because 1) he wasn’t even talking to me and the one time he did it was about the weather and 2) we were INSIDE eating. What the heck does the weather matter?  We got the check fairly soon after and once we got into the car he asked if I wanted to go walk on the beach. I said that I’d love to and he said that he thought we should go walk on the beach back home 30 minutes away. My grandma had asked that we go grocery shopping after dinner and the grocery store was right next to where we were. I couldn’t understand why the heck he wanted to drive 30 minutes to go walk on the beach just to drive all the way back to the grocery store. Plus we were literally on the beach eating dinner. I was so aggravating and complaining the whole time about how it didn’t make sense what we were doing.

We needed up driving ALL THE WAY back to the beach house to walk on the beach and he wants to walk in the fluffy part of the sand. Which mind you is difficult enough to walk in regularly, but I had a dress on and it was extremely windy. So windy I was getting pelted with sand grains. I must’ve asked a million times to go closer to the water to walk so it was easier and I wouldn’t be out of breath trying to walk through the sand storm but he was adamant that we couldn’t do that.

He looks at me and tells me how much he loves me and how much I mean to him and how I’ve helped him grow into the man that he’s become these past 5 1/2 years. He was making a joke about how we had almost been together 2000 days and he can’t believe I put up with him that long and I laughed and said me either and especially with you putting up with me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend all those years ago we had just got done taking a walk and he said “Bailey, I have a secret”. I laughed and said “oh yeah? What’s that? You’re really a serial killer?” He nudged me and said “I would love to date you”. Fast forward to the moment on the beach and he looked at me and said the very same words “Hey Bailey, I have a secret”. I looked at him as he said “I would love to marry you”. My reaction wasn’t what I pictured it would be. I watched him dig around in his pocket and pull out a container that the $.25 rings come in and laughed and said “Is this a joke?! Are you joking?!” He got down on one knee and said my full name and “Will you marry me?”


I said yes of course! And kissed my future husband. He had tears in his eyes and was shaking and tried just handing me the ring, but I stuck out my hand and told him he had to put it on, which he did. I couldn’t stop ugly crying and kissing him telling him how much I loved him. For the whole time we dated, he made a joke that I he was going to propose to me with a $.25 ring that you get from the grocery stores and better hope that I have good luck. He of course put the ring he really got me in the container, but I loved it. Every little part of the proposal. And I felt terrible for being such a monster to him about driving all the way home to walk on the beach.

I’m crying in his arms and he tells me to turn around- I see my momma and my two cousins (who helped me get ready for the night) taking pictures of us! They even took a video of the whole proposal unfold so that I can rewatch it and relive the moment forever. Of course I apologized a million times over for how upset I was to Chad and he just laughs and says it made his nerves settle. (I really don’t know how!)

Here’s a picture of us right after and my absolutely stunning ring. I know it’s not all about the ring, but hey – I’m happy to show it off! Haha


How did you get proposed to?! I want to hear from you!

True Life: I’m Addicted to Binge Watching Netflix Shows

I love binge watching shows on Netflix – so much so that I don’t even pay for cable. For one I have Netflix, Hulu, and my Amazon Fire Stick which is jailbroken. I go through spurts where I’ll stay up all day and all night watching a show. During College for a week straight I didn’t even go to class – all day every day I would stay in my room and watch The Vampire Diaries. I’m not really proud to admit that and my grades especially suffered, but hey I graduated and have my degree literally sitting in front of me. All in all, I guess binge watching shows didn’t hinder me from success in my educational career. HAHA no one tell me mom. She would literally kill me.

ANY WHO, I love it. I’ve watched 90210, Gossip Girl, One Tree Hill, Dexter, The Vampire Diaries, Pretty Little Liars, and I’m still currently binging Grey’s Anatomy.

I love Grey’s Anatomy so much though that I literally restrict myself from watching too much of it because, for one I don’t want it to end, and for two it’s on TV still and I don’t want to have to wait to watch more episodes. I’m in the middle of season 9 and refuse to watch a ton more because of my reasoning. So what do I do? Binge watch other shows that I’m still interested in so that it’ll take my mind off of Grey’s for a while. Does anyone else do this? I will binge watch a show in the middle of me binge watching another because I don’t want the first one to end. I feel like I’m emotionally invested into the people, their stories, and the show. For anyone that hasn’t seen Grey’s Anatomy – DO IT.

Any suggestions for other shows to watch? Does anyone else do what I do or am I the only one?

Wedding Bells: Venue Locked Down

My fiancé and I decided on our venue! It took a long time and multiple pros and cons lists to really decide what was the best place was for us and what we’re looking for. 

Here’s a picture of our venue!



We chose to go with the Castle like venue that’s closer to home (which I love). I honestly couldn’t be happier to marry my best friend and things are going so smoothly.

We are getting married Labor Day weekend 2018!! It’s so soon and there’s so much to plan and coordinate, but I know that this year will literally fly by. So now that’s we’ve locked down the venue, now we have to look closely at caterers, cakes, and everything else wedding related that I probably haven’t even begun to think about yet. 

Anyone have any advice for wedding planning? What’s some things that you couldn’t have lived without on your wedding day?!

Wedding Bells: Venue Shopping

With most of my life being consumed by everything wedding related, I decided to make a series about it. The thing that’s been currently taking up all of my time and thoughts is the venue. There’s so many different ones in my area, as I’m sure is the same everywhere, and so many different decisions to be making.

First you have to see how much the venues cost and what the rental includes (which for the most part is just the tables and chairs or the ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception). There are some venues – few and far between – that offer linens for all the tables and all the dinnerware that you’ll need. When I initially started looking at venues, I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into so I literally just requested quotes for anyone and everyone that I thought I could remotely see my wedding at. From there, I looked more deeply into the properties, their rules and regulations, and things like that.

I didn’t ever want a destination wedding and didn’t want to be more than an hour away from my venue from my house. I have to be able to easily go to the venue if I have meetings or questions. I can’t not know what’s going on – I would freak out.

We’ve cut out all the venues that didn’t really appeal to us, were too far away, or for some reason or another we decided to move on from them and we’re finally down to our last two venues! My fiance and I took our moms to the venues and they each had a tour to see where Chad and I could really see saying “I do” to each other forever (eeeep! I’m really getting married – still surreal). Wouldn’t you know though, the two venues are COMPLETELY different from one another.

The first venue we’re considering is on a golf course, has a massive ballroom of 5000 square feet, linens and dinnerware included, golf for the day included for Chad, his groomsmen and fathers (he loves golf), lots of natural light for the reception hall (they have these see through garage doors lining the whole front half of the building that can be opened, beautiful bridal suite, tons of included decorations, day of coordinator for dirt cheap, there’s an arbor where you would get married and it’s in front of a pong/lake thing. Seems great right? Well the location is slightly further away (35-40 minutes – I know I know, not really that far), we HAVE to use their caterer because it’s also a restaurant and there’s no tastings available for a month. So we would have to wait and potentially lose our desired date because I will not book a venue before I know what the food tastes like. Their open bar is outrageously expensive, the ceremony lawn is literally next to the parking lot, and it’s a public golf course so people will be playing golf and buzzing around on their golf carts during my wedding.

The next venue is 20 minutes away from us, a smaller property, and in some aspects resembles a castle. The ceremony site is in the back of the property and away from the parking lot, there’s water behind us from a river that you can see from the ceremony, Lots of natural light throughout the building, the bridal suite is pretty with a TON of natural light (the other I think it prettier, but no natural light in the golf course one), more elegant light fixtures, cheap month of coordinator, more intimate feel because the building is smaller, the back wall is all french doors that can be opened, it really and truly does look top notch. Downfalls? For the open bar you can’t have straights, shots, or any mixed drink exceeding a certain percentage of alcohol, since it’s a more intimate space, my guests may be watching my bridal party and I taking photos during cocktail hour, and for walking down the aisle you would be walking through your reception hall to get out to the back area for the ceremony.

So I’m at a loss of how I really love two venues that are so different from one another. I can’t decide which would be the best fit for what I’m looking for and which cons I can deal with and what the deal-breakers are.

Any suggestions? Any tips from people who have already done a wedding on what I should be focusing on and what you did for your special day that I should consider? Any wedding related tips and tricks welcome! I need all the help I can get!!

Wedding Bells

IM ENGAGED!!

I’m still in disbelief that it actually happened (finally) and that I’m getting married to my best friend! We are at the beach and it’s the first time that my family has let anyone’s boyfriend come on our vacation. (My family has this rule that you have to be engaged or married in order to come on family vacations). We’ve been dating for almost 5 1/2 years and haven’t ever asked or pushed to ask if he could come because of the rule, but this year I did. I mean, we’ve been together forever, I didn’t see any harm in asking – and to my surprise they said yes! We had only been here for 24 hours and normally my family goes out every night, but because of the drive and everything they wanted to stay in and rest. So, Chad asked if I wanted to go out just the two of us. Of course I said yes to some alone time with my boyfriend, who wouldn’t. Nothing was out of the ordinary. We got dressed, I did my hair and make up, and we went to dinner. Then after he asked if I wanted to go on a walk on the beach. We walked for a while and then he proposed. I ugly cried and my whole family was behind us clapping and taking pictures. It was an absolutely amazing night and I’ve been staring at my ring non stop because I can’t believe it. I literally had absolutely no idea it was going to happen at the beach with my family. 

BUT now I get to plan my wedding! I’m so excited and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with my fiancé. 
Any advice to a new planner for a wedding? What worked and what didn’t? I need all the help I can get! 

Life Post Grad

…is surprisingly not that much different from life pre-grad if I do say so myself. Regardless, I FINALLY graduated from college! *round of applause* Thinking about it realistically, it really only took me 3 years to graduate from my university including transferring schools. However, I’ve been taking college classes since I was 13 so I feel like I’ve been in school forever. Since I had to take a summer class, I won’t actually walk in a commencement ceremony until December because of the way my school has their commencements set up. That is, if I decide to walk or not. Normally, I’d think I was crazy to not walk in the graduation, I mean hell, I worked my ass off for this. With my having to wait 5 months to walk across the stage though, it leaves me wondering if I’ll do it. Has anyone else not walked in their graduation? Do you regret it? I need some insight!

Anyway, like I said before, life post grad really isn’t all that different. I work for the same company, but received a promotion, and live at the same place with the same people. I moved back home last December because of a terrible living situation with my then roommate and haven’t moved back out since. I halfway want to just wait to move out again until I’m married because in the past 3 years I’ve moved in and out of places 8 times. Yep, 8. SO needless to say, I’m over it and want to push off moving as long as possible. Even if that means living with the fam longer than I’d like.

I’m still dating Chad and unfortunately we aren’t engaged yet. I have a feeling it might be sometime soon, but you never know. I know that I’m young and that to some it might seem crazy to want to get engaged at 21, but I do live in the south where all my friends are married with kids. Plus, getting married young to the person you’re meant to be with just means a longer marriage and happy life together.

In other news, I really am gong to try to be more active on here! I always say that, but it never happens. Much like me on a diet hahaha.

Girls Are Mean

I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately, and I’ve noticed something that’s become abundantly clear… girls are mean- really mean. Including myself. When they’re threatened by another girl, they immediately begin nitpicking the other girl in question and commenting on their weight, looks, personality,  life choices, anything. FOR WHAT??

Why was I so insecure with myself and my circumstances at the time that I thought it was appropriate to belittle and demean another woman? I cannot believe that I succumbed  to what I did and said the things that I have to this one woman in particular over the years. Granted most of what I’m referring to was 5 years ago, but still. Words hurt and leave scars as much as physical wounds.

We should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. A lot of what I lashed out about was because of my own problems and insecurities, but it was still completely uncalled for and inappropriate.  I’ve learned a lot since the naive, mean girl that I once was but I will always have more to learn.

SO, to the girl that I’m talking about… I’m sorry for more things and in more ways than you even know. A lot of what I was mad at you for, it was actually anger at myself that was taken out on you.

We won’t ever be friends- and honestly I’m okay with that, but we don’t have to be enemies either. I wish you nothing but happiness in life and I hope you enjoy every part of life that’s on offer.

 

Build love, not hate.