All About Me!

Hey everyone! I’ve never really wrote a “Get To Know Me” and I figured it’s better late than never, right?! Whenever I think of these things, I don’t really think I’m that interesting, but hey! Who knows, maybe we’ll have something in common. 🙂 So behold my fellow readers, a list of 10 things you may not know about me!

  1. I’m Irish and Italian – more Italian even though I look more Irish – curse you fair skin and red hair!
  2. I’m an “only” child. I put that in quotations for a couple of different reasons. I have two half siblings who I’ve never met (and I’m not too sure if I ever want to at this point in my life) and I have two girl cousins who I grew up with and that I consider my sisters. (They’re both bridesmaids in my wedding!)
  3. I’m all about lefts! I’m left-handed, from the left coast (Southern California originally!), my hair parts on the left side, and I play major sports left-handed…I bat right handed, but that’s the only thing! You know, people who are left-handed are always in their right mind…haha. I say that to people who look at me crazy when they notice I’m left handed. I think it’s hilarious honestly. I’ll be writing something down for work and inevitably someone will be like “WOAH…YOU’RE LEFT HANDED?!” or “How long has that been going on?!” or “Wow! You have really neat handwriting for a left-handed person”.
  4. I’ve never met my father – or anyone on that side of my family. Hence number 2! Technically out of all my Father’s children, I’m the middle child. I have an older half-brother named Dean and a younger half-sister named Shelby. My mom left my dad when she was pregnant with me (he cheated – too much info? eh, I don’t like him anyway) and he never made an effort.
  5. I’m 21 years of age and I’ve never left the country other than going to Canada for the Niagara Falls! I live in the USA, more specifically North Carolina. If you live in NC, comment! Maybe we’re close. 🙂
  6. My first car was a maroon 1998 Toyota Camry named Wanton. He was the BEST car ever. Was he flashy? Haaaiilll no. Did he shake going 65 mph? Definitely. BUT did he give me the best memories and help me become a better driver? Absolutely! Y’all… I literally cried leaving him at Car-Max when I was leaving in my new car. I know that seems pathetic, but he was the first real thing I could call my own and it couldn’t have been a better first car.
  7. My fiance and I have been together for 5 1/2 years! He was my high school sweetheart and we’ve been together since I was a junior in high school. We’re getting married next September and it’ll be 6 1/2 years together by then. We aren’t planning on continually celebrating our dating anniversary in a sense once we’re married. We’ll acknowledge it and probably go out to dinner/date night, but we won’t celebrate it like we’ll celebrate our married anniversary. We love giving presents to each other and love trying to one up the other to get the better gift!
  8. I work in Human Resources for my company and I’m a data analyst. I’m responsible for legal related requests (subpoenas), personnel files, Youth Employment Certificates, and running and analyzing reports. Boring, I know. I don’t think it’s something I see myself doing for the rest of my life, but I love my job and the company I work for. Plus the hours are great and really give me the leeway to do whatever needed.
  9. My favorite animal is an elephant. I love what they represent and they’re just beautiful animals. I have an elephant tapestry hanging in my cube at work, an abstract colored elephant card on my desk, and even elephant paper clips… but I’m not obsessed…right?
  10. My favorite color is blue. I’m not sure if it’s the color that looks the best with my skin tone/what I wear the most often or if it’s just been my favorite color for so long that I couldn’t possibly have another favorite. (joking, lol) Even one of my wedding colors is blue! My wedding colors are sky blue (like Carolina Blue – go heels!), grey, ivory, and pale pink (I’m having peonies). I’m not sure if these colors together will look like a baby shower… to be determined. So the pale pink may have to go.

Okay, folks! That’s all for the ten facts. If you want to know anything about me or have any questions at all, please ask! No seriously, ask because I need friends. LOL. Do we have anything in common? Be sure to like and comment!

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I FOUND THE DRESS

….that I don’t want for my wedding. I went wedding dress shopping today with my mom, grandma, and best friend (also my Maid of Honor). I couldn’t have asked for a better group to go with today and experience this with! My mom is amazing and is the most supportive person in my life, my grandma and I are basically the same person (I know, it’s scary that I’m only 21 and my twin is my grandma…ha!), and my best friend…well she’s my best friend for a reason. The best part about the group of women that came with me, other than how much I love them, is that I know 100% that they’ll always be honest with me about what looks good…and what doesn’t. To say that it was a stressful and overwhelming experience would be an understatement. Don’t get me wrong it was a lot of fun and I can’t wait to go again to find a dress that I DO like, but regardless it was stressful.

Something I didn’t realize about wedding dresses? They’re heavy as HADES. It’s literally ridiculous the amount of fabric and crinoline that they put under dresses to make them. I’m getting married a year from yesterday and my wedding day will most likely be warmer than I anticipated, so having all that fabric and sweating profusely? No thanks!

However, the plus side to this is now I know exactly the type and look of dress I want for my special day. I literally tried on every style out there I’m sure (our poor lady helping us had to most likely bring in every single dress they had to offer). I found two dresses that I liked, but not loved. I think if you could’ve put the two dresses together it would’ve been the perfect dress for me. Which is now what I’m on the hunt for!

I have another appointment at a different Bridal Boutique next Saturday so I’ll be sure to update you all!

So, what am I looking for?

  • Strapless (which is the exact thing I said I wanted to stay away from- go figure)
  • Sweetheart neckline
  • In between A-line and Ballgown
  • Lace and beading uptop
  • Spread out lace at bottom
  • Belt if needed to spice up the dress
  • Not stark white (I’m fair-skinned so I look best in ivory I believe)

I just want something fun, but elegant – and that doesn’t make me look like I’m 23678765432345678 pounds. Yes, that’s an exact number haha.

What kind of dress did you get when you got married? Or if you’re not married what type of dress do you think you’d want? Did anyone else not have luck their first go around?

Summer 2017 Favorites

While this may not have been the most adventurous of summers, it was still by far one of my favorite summers thus far in life (all 21 years!) I’m not one of those people who loves the summer, so honestly I’m ready to see it leave… nonetheless I can still enjoy the nice weather and time with friends and family.  I’m going to reflect on some of my favorite moments and things from this summer! While it’s still technically summer time – school is back in session (for once, not for me) and things are winding down into a routine. Without further adieu, here are my favorites!

Favorite Moments:

  1. Graduating! This summer I graduated from college…woah… it’s still honestly unreal to me that I actually graduated from college and have a 4 year degree. For a while it wasn’t something that I thought would happen for me. There were so many bumps in the road along the way, but it made the payoff THAT much better. Since I graduated during the summer I haven’t walked across the stage yet for a commencement ceremony. My university only has Fall and Spring commencement ceremonies – so if I want to, I can walk in December – I still haven’t decided. I already have my degree framed and in my possession, so I’m still weighing my options on that.graduation
  2. In lieu of graduating, so did my cousin! She graduated from high school and will be attending the very same college that I just graduated from. For our graduation present, we road-tripped to upstate New York and spent a week exploring and stopping wherever caught our eye on the way! We stopped at three or so waterfalls along the way and got to see the Niagara Falls! There’s so many more things that we did and picutres that I took, so maybe I’ll make a post just about my trip! I’m an only child, so my cousin is basically like my sister. We grew up really close and do absolutely everything possible together (hell, she’s even going to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, but shhhhhh she doesn’t know it yet) Here are some pictures of our stops and our week in New York!
  3. Now, I’ve posted about this a TON already, so I’ll keep it short and sweet, but my most favorite moment of this whole summer and potentially my life so far……ME GETTING ENGAGED! (I know, shocker… I know what you’re thinking Wow if I have to read about this girls engagement one more time…. and I get it, trust me. However, I couldn’t just not include it. Getting engaged was the best moment and the most unexpected moment of the summer and I can’t wait to marry Chad in just over a year! (Yes I’m crazy and I’m planning a wedding in 14 months).

Favorite Songs:

I have three songs that I was absolutely obsessed with this summer (still kind of am if we’re being honest here).

  • The first song is “I Like Me Better” by Lauv. Doesn’t it make you just want to roll down the sunroof, sing at the top of your lungs, and dance while driving? No? Just me? Maybe I’m weird… I’ll post the YouTube link to the song below so you can listen!
  • The second song is called “Play On (Ahlsttrom Remix)” by Martin Hall. It has a different sound than the song by Lauv, but it still makes me want to dance and puts me in a good mood! Don’t knock it until you listen to the whole song. Let me know what you think!
  • The final song that I’ve been seriously obsessed with for a while now is called “Full Circle” by Quinn XCII. Maybe I just have weird music taste and you all will hate them, but I love anything by Quinn XCII. I discovered them probably about a year and a half ago and their songs just keep getting better to me!

I want to hear from you! Do you know any of these songs and love them too? What were your favorite memories from the summer? Any suggestions of things you think I’d like? Please comment and let me know!

 

Possible Girl Code in Question

Infidelity, in my opinion, is the one thing that will make me want to immediately leave a relationship. No matter the length or possible mess it could cause. When I’m in a relationship with someone, I pledge my loyalty and fidelity to them because not only is it the right thing to do morally, but just a common understanding between most couples. (Unless you’re in an open relationship. To each their own and I’m not judging- just personally not something I want).

I recently learned that my fiancé’s best friend, Boston (not his real name, but for privacy reasons and the sensitivity to the topic I’m going to avoid using it) cheated on his girlfriend of 7 years. Boston and the girl didn’t have sex, but did everything else. For me personally, cheating on your significant other is really doing anything  that you wouldn’t want them to find out about. I don’t fall for the whole “it was a meaningless kiss” bullshit. He was out of town visiting family and hooked up with someone there. The kicker? He’s still in contact with the other woman weeks after the initial night of infidelity. YALL ITS BEEN • W E E K S •  like whatttttttt. He’ll be up into the wee hours of the morning talking on the phone or texting this woman getting to know her and testing the waters with her to see if there’s potential for a relationship. HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. ugh. 

He hasn’t told his girlfriend, Catherine (again, not real names), and I don’t really believe he’s going to. He’s been debating breaking up with Catherine for months- maybe longer-  but just hasn’t really decided whether that’s something he truly wants. 7 years is a long time to just throw away in his mind, which I completely understand, but cheating definitely isn’t the answer. 

Catherine and I aren’t friends. Not even in the slightest. Is she my favorite person in this world? No, but I don’t know anything negative about her to not like her. But on the other hand, isn’t this like some girl code? Like I’m obligated to let her know? I don’t really want to ruin her relationship and potentially turn her life upside down, but if my fiancé did something like this to me you can bet your bottom dollar I would want someone to be bold enough to tell me. I just don’t know what to do. It would be different if it was one night and he hasn’t had any contact since and regretted it, but the simple fact that it’s being prolonged and he’s carrying on some type of relationship with the other woman changes my viewpoint. I literally hate cheating and have zero tolerance for it. I don’t think there’s ever a reason to do that with someone that you can’t break it off with the person before you test the waters with someone else. 

I’m not really sure what I’m going to do at this point. If you were in my shoes, would you tell Catherine? If you were Catherine would you want me to tell you? I really need advice on this one. 

How He Proposed

I’ve been reminiscing (if it can even be called that because I haven’t even been engaged that long) about how my wonderful fiancé proposed to me that I decided to put it out there to the world. There wasn’t an airplane that flew by asking, it wasn’t written in the sand, and it definitely wasn’t in a hot air balloon (Chad’s afraid of heights), but it was absolutely perfect for us.

I think I explained in an earlier post a little bit of it so some of this may be redundant, but I want to tell the full story from beginning to end.

My family has never allowed anyone to bring their significant other to our beach trips unless you’re engaged. Weird,  I know. I have a VERY traditional family. So after almost 5 1/2 years with my boyfriend at the time I hadn’t even brought up the idea of him coming, but this year I said enough is enough. We’ve been together forever. He’s basically part of the family anyway. So I asked each member of my family who was going on the trip if he could come given the rules- and to my surprise they all said yes!

So fast forward to our first full day at the beach – yes he proposed with being there less than 24 hours. We had just gotten up from a full day at the beach and pool and finished lunch. I told him that I was getting in the shower and I’d be out when I was done. While I was in the shower he went out on the porch and talked to my mom and asked her for my hand in marriage (cue the tears!!) My father isn’t in the picture and never has been so I loved that he asked my mom. We were staying in the house filled with more than 10 people and oddly enough that was the one and only time my mom was ever alone and away from the crowd. It was meant to be. I got out of the shower and everything seemed normal. I really couldn’t tell anything was different. He asked if I wanted us to go out just the two of us that night since my family didn’t have plans, which of course I wanted to. We were staying in a full house and I was already wanting to just be alone with my boyfriend. He told me to get ready and we would go. My cousins came in and did my hair and make up. I got dressed and we were on our way to dinner.

At dinner though, he barely talked. Like at all. I felt like I was pulling teeth trying to get him to talk to me which never happens. Normally we have amazing conversations and I laugh so hard I have tears. All of the sudden out of the blue he looks around frantically and says a string of questions like: “is it raining?” “Is that rain?” “Oh god it’s raining, can you see that?” “We need to go soon. It’s about to rain” “oh my god rain”. I was beginning to get irritated because 1) he wasn’t even talking to me and the one time he did it was about the weather and 2) we were INSIDE eating. What the heck does the weather matter?  We got the check fairly soon after and once we got into the car he asked if I wanted to go walk on the beach. I said that I’d love to and he said that he thought we should go walk on the beach back home 30 minutes away. My grandma had asked that we go grocery shopping after dinner and the grocery store was right next to where we were. I couldn’t understand why the heck he wanted to drive 30 minutes to go walk on the beach just to drive all the way back to the grocery store. Plus we were literally on the beach eating dinner. I was so aggravating and complaining the whole time about how it didn’t make sense what we were doing.

We needed up driving ALL THE WAY back to the beach house to walk on the beach and he wants to walk in the fluffy part of the sand. Which mind you is difficult enough to walk in regularly, but I had a dress on and it was extremely windy. So windy I was getting pelted with sand grains. I must’ve asked a million times to go closer to the water to walk so it was easier and I wouldn’t be out of breath trying to walk through the sand storm but he was adamant that we couldn’t do that.

He looks at me and tells me how much he loves me and how much I mean to him and how I’ve helped him grow into the man that he’s become these past 5 1/2 years. He was making a joke about how we had almost been together 2000 days and he can’t believe I put up with him that long and I laughed and said me either and especially with you putting up with me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend all those years ago we had just got done taking a walk and he said “Bailey, I have a secret”. I laughed and said “oh yeah? What’s that? You’re really a serial killer?” He nudged me and said “I would love to date you”. Fast forward to the moment on the beach and he looked at me and said the very same words “Hey Bailey, I have a secret”. I looked at him as he said “I would love to marry you”. My reaction wasn’t what I pictured it would be. I watched him dig around in his pocket and pull out a container that the $.25 rings come in and laughed and said “Is this a joke?! Are you joking?!” He got down on one knee and said my full name and “Will you marry me?”


I said yes of course! And kissed my future husband. He had tears in his eyes and was shaking and tried just handing me the ring, but I stuck out my hand and told him he had to put it on, which he did. I couldn’t stop ugly crying and kissing him telling him how much I loved him. For the whole time we dated, he made a joke that I he was going to propose to me with a $.25 ring that you get from the grocery stores and better hope that I have good luck. He of course put the ring he really got me in the container, but I loved it. Every little part of the proposal. And I felt terrible for being such a monster to him about driving all the way home to walk on the beach.

I’m crying in his arms and he tells me to turn around- I see my momma and my two cousins (who helped me get ready for the night) taking pictures of us! They even took a video of the whole proposal unfold so that I can rewatch it and relive the moment forever. Of course I apologized a million times over for how upset I was to Chad and he just laughs and says it made his nerves settle. (I really don’t know how!)

Here’s a picture of us right after and my absolutely stunning ring. I know it’s not all about the ring, but hey – I’m happy to show it off! Haha


How did you get proposed to?! I want to hear from you!

True Life: I’m Addicted to Binge Watching Netflix Shows

I love binge watching shows on Netflix – so much so that I don’t even pay for cable. For one I have Netflix, Hulu, and my Amazon Fire Stick which is jailbroken. I go through spurts where I’ll stay up all day and all night watching a show. During College for a week straight I didn’t even go to class – all day every day I would stay in my room and watch The Vampire Diaries. I’m not really proud to admit that and my grades especially suffered, but hey I graduated and have my degree literally sitting in front of me. All in all, I guess binge watching shows didn’t hinder me from success in my educational career. HAHA no one tell me mom. She would literally kill me.

ANY WHO, I love it. I’ve watched 90210, Gossip Girl, One Tree Hill, Dexter, The Vampire Diaries, Pretty Little Liars, and I’m still currently binging Grey’s Anatomy.

I love Grey’s Anatomy so much though that I literally restrict myself from watching too much of it because, for one I don’t want it to end, and for two it’s on TV still and I don’t want to have to wait to watch more episodes. I’m in the middle of season 9 and refuse to watch a ton more because of my reasoning. So what do I do? Binge watch other shows that I’m still interested in so that it’ll take my mind off of Grey’s for a while. Does anyone else do this? I will binge watch a show in the middle of me binge watching another because I don’t want the first one to end. I feel like I’m emotionally invested into the people, their stories, and the show. For anyone that hasn’t seen Grey’s Anatomy – DO IT.

Any suggestions for other shows to watch? Does anyone else do what I do or am I the only one?

Wedding Bells: Venue Locked Down

My fiancé and I decided on our venue! It took a long time and multiple pros and cons lists to really decide what was the best place was for us and what we’re looking for. 

Here’s a picture of our venue!



We chose to go with the Castle like venue that’s closer to home (which I love). I honestly couldn’t be happier to marry my best friend and things are going so smoothly.

We are getting married Labor Day weekend 2018!! It’s so soon and there’s so much to plan and coordinate, but I know that this year will literally fly by. So now that’s we’ve locked down the venue, now we have to look closely at caterers, cakes, and everything else wedding related that I probably haven’t even begun to think about yet. 

Anyone have any advice for wedding planning? What’s some things that you couldn’t have lived without on your wedding day?!